DOMESTIC VIOLENCE INFORMATION
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What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is a pattern of coervice behaviors that one person exercises over another.
Physical Violence is any physically aggressive behavior; witholding of physical needs (interrupt sleep or meals, deny help if sick) indirect physically harmful behavior or threat of physical violence (to others, to children, throw things, destruct property). Physical violence includes:
- Shooting, etc
- Hold hostage
Sexual Violence -- using sex in exploitative fashion or forcing sex on another person.
Consent in past does not indicate current consent.
Sexual violence includes:
- Unwanted touching or abuse of genitals or breasts,
- Rape with objects,
- Offensive statements of another's sexuality or body, or
- Forced sexual relations -- with others, prostitution.
- Can be pressured, forced, coerced.
Psychological abuse includes
- Verbal Abuse:
- Name calling, threats
- Derogatory or demeaning comments
- Emotional Abuse:
- Exploits vulnerability or character
- Insulting or criticizing
- Forcing victims to perform humiliating acts,
- Threats to harass or kill the victim or victim's family,
- Telling the victim she is mentally unstable/incompetent
- Consistently disregarding, ignoring or neglecting victim's requests & needs
- Using actions, statements or gestures that attack the victim's self-esteem
- Other Forms Include:
- Denial of bsaic human needs - food, clothing, shelter, medical attention, personal hygiene
- Economic Deprivation: control income, cause her to lose job, spend money on non-essentials)
- Destruction of property or pets
- Locking victim in the home
- Providing no access to a car or telephone
- Not allowing contact with friends and family
- Use of children to control adult victim
Note: When we talk about domestic violence, we often use "she" when referring to the victim. We do this because women are the target in 85% of all intimate partner violence.
This does NOT mean that all men are abusive, that men are not abused, that women are not abusive, or that domestic violence does not occur in same-sex relationships.
Use the links to the left for more information on myths and warning signs of domestic violence, along with links to frequently asked questions (FAQ). The links provided below are to PDF files for a more printer-friendly version.